Dear Sassy Nation, 

It’s me, Charis, your girlfriend, trusted designer and leader of Sassy Jones. It’s been a while since I’ve wrote one of these love letters to you, and I just want to catch you up on all things Charis, because I’ve not been as present as I once was.

I want to warn you about how raw this letter is, so if you are here for the happy go lucky blonde, go on ahead and press delete now. But if you’re all in with me, keep reading.

Truth is, chile I've been tired. Exhausted is definitely the proper term. Exhausted from achieving, exhausted from therapy, exhausted from trying to fix everything, everyone and most importantly, myself. But F*ck it… I’m no longer participating.

As I’ve crossed 40 years old, there’s been a relentless, ‘As Is’ clause in my life meaning I’ve increased my capability & capacity to accept and see things as they actually are without fantasizing what I’d like them to be or overstepping my personal boundary to rescue everything.

Expending resources to repair broken relationships with family, managing my personal responsibilities and building an empire has been alot. ALOT. So I fired myself as chief people pleaser. And yea babe, I love it here 😂

Let me know if you can relate

I want to reach out to you differently. Not to inspire you to get out of what you may be feeling or encourage you to rise higher today or give you a life changing word that will make it all better.

Right now, I’d rather simply affirm and acknowledge you right where you are. You may be tired, taking care of the world, carrying folks on your shoulders and trying to find the strength to remain standing yourself. 

I just want you to know, I get you.

So how do we continue to build our lives when you may be energetically exhausted? 

Like, how do we manufacture the effort required to sustain when it feels like our bottom fell out underneath us? 

The answer is simple: Energy Budgeting. 

It’s the simple act of investing your energy where you will receive a return and improving on identifying the things that zap you dry without fail. Start to subtract them one by one. Whether it be work, love, relationships, any & everything. Because life ain’t 1 sided.

So if you’re feeling like you are energetically bankrupt, it’s probably because your focus is probably directed toward activities, people and things that are withdrawing from your energetic bank account with little or no repayment. Some of us are even energetically overdrawn. That’s exactly where I’ve been.

So when I took a look at my own life, I literally made a list of the things that led to energetic bankruptcy and left me feeling depleted like a parasite host. And one by one, I started to turn the volume down on those relationships, things and people in my life.

That requires a significant amount of bravery and absolute immediate deployment of that ‘As Is’ clause that we chatted about earlier in this love letter. And since then, everything has been changing for the better and gotten super light. I also thought about all the things that I do that actually manufacture & create energy for myself; meticulously prioritizing the relationships & interactions that literally give me life. 

One of those things that sets my soul on fire is actually talking with you, open floor moments like this and your truthful responses have always kindled my flame. 

We just get one another, us sassy unicorns.

Energy Budgeting

58 commentaires

Lola Christina

I am normally too busy to look through all of the emails I get, so I immediately delete many of them because a clean slate of just a few notifications make me more chill. Your message, however, stopped me in my tracks. It told me, “Breathe, girl, ‘cuz even the greatest (like you, Charis), need to decompress and that’s OK!” In fact, each time I read your message, I get more and more out of it. I actively work to eliminate negative thoughts and people out of my headspace. Sometimes, it’s easier said than done, but the focus is to have a clear mind before going to sleep. Each day is a new day; each hour is a new hour; each minute is a new minute. Renewing energy is all around us. Breathe, inhale, envelop. XO to all the sassy sisters out there.

Regina Gordon

Today, because I have been sick for a while, I thumbed through my emails and saw this post of all days. I needed this letter today. I have been spent and de-energized for over a year! I have stepped back from a tremendous amount of things in my life to take care of me as of late. God blesses us in many ways. We all need to take our time, to heal, and to rest. But most of all to take charge of our lives. My new life is just beginning!


As we continue to wear the many hats, boundary setting is necessary. I will provide you with the caution tape that states, “you’ve been warned”. The warning phrase is, I am tired!?. I have been saying it, and now the caution tape is up, across the board family, friends, and as a business owner in the field of humanities. I have been told, I seem crabby or better just plain mean. My response was epic, I am taking care of myself, it is deaf defining when those who believe they are entitled to what we have allowed becomes an expectation…wait for it, the veil has been ripped off and the scales are removed as we sit, stand, or yhe knealt position with no one to there but God as he is wiping our frustrated filled tears saying take care of you, it’s not selfish, I need you in the best of health.
You are not alone stay the course as you elevate for you.

Regina Rogers Johnson

Charis Sis, I can most definitely relate. I used to also run around this earth doing, being and achieving for all in my path.

But then one day I said NO.

When I began to use that word as a complete sentence, my life re-centered and my energy replenished. I applaud your decision to stop the depletion in your life, Girl!

Rock-on Chief Unicorn Extraordinaire! 🦄
We have your back, Sis.


Bessie Wilson

Dear Charis, I have watched you for years on the website and listened to you on sparkle. You are the best! from your Generation. I’m not surprised at the things you went through but I’m glad you saw the light of God. Long story short, people that love and give like you do have a big, big heart and then one day God let’s you know that’s enough. It’s a lesson learned about the world but God let you come out and through the test. It’s the same test He went through loving and giving. The difference is He laid down his life for us. We can’t lay our live down for the world but you loved them and God said that’s enough. We all love you here at my house and we have prayed for you as we see you. You have touched my life and I am much older than you. You have reached the hearts of many and all ages. You are full and running over with love and life. Lesson learned and I will always charish the fun I have whenever I purchase your products. ❤️❤️ the tears 😢 are running down my eyes. Tears of joy.

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